Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of Death, I will fear no evil. For thou art with me. -Psalm 23
I have blogged about a couple of my friends who have given me support when I needed it desperately. These are the friends that come alongside you when you're broken, to scrape you off the pavement and speak the encouragement you need to hear.
Sometimes you may wonder why God lets these horrible things happen in life. But once you get to the other side of the valley, there are good things waiting for you. There is wisdom and knowledge that you never would have had if you hadn't been stripped of all your defenses. And then it's your turn to help someone coming behind you, who's fallen into the same valley and is just as petrified as you were.
I have a friend in California who called me one night a year ago, in shock. Her husband had attacked her again, and this time there were witnesses. This set off a year-long odyssey into the court system to get custody of her 2 children and move across the country to be near her family. All the while her husband comes around like a wolf, looking for ways to scare her. (And if he's not trying to scare her, he's getting a new girlfriend to make her feel worthless.)
I've been there. She knows that. She also sees where I am now - and that it's possible not only to
survive, but to have wonderful things ahead of you.
When she freaks out and sends me a frantic email, I'm there to tell her
"I know. It's going to be ok. And if it's not ok, then it's not the end. I'll pray with you. I'm waiting here on the east coast for you and your precious kids. You will find a job. Hold on, don't watch the wolf, keep your eyes fixed upward and just do the next thing."
and
"Forget the furniture and the UHaul -- just get out!" (Like I can't find you a boatload of free furniture once you get here. Priorities, chica!)
And it's when I'm writing to her encouragement, the realization dawns on me: I made it out of the valley. By His grace and not by my own intellect,
we survived. I can help someone else now.
I think that's the whole point.